Basics of Married Life

Marriage is a bond, which a husband and wife ties for the life time. In fact in Indian marriages, the Indian bride and groom are required to keep the sanctity of the bond alive for seven lives. The marriage bond is said to be purest of all the relations that a human being shares in his life. It is actually the thread, which binds two lives into one, like it is called one soul in two bodies. Marriages in India, have always been held at great importance and utmost preference is given, when it comes to keeping alive the strength of marriage as a bond. The people of India, have always been finicky about making their marriage work for the life time. They believe in putting the best of their efforts, for keeping the sacredness of their marriage alive.

For maintaining and sustaining the bond of marriage, efforts from both the sides i.e. the bride and the groom both have to be consistent in putting in the elements of love, care and understanding to keep the marriage as a bond growing. It is really not easy to spend one’s full life with a different person altogether. It is in fact like the beginning of a new life, where the bride and groom have to instill their life with a lot of ingredients to keep the wheels of their married life rolling. Marriage is not a joke, a phrase, which every married Indian bride and groom must have been hearing from their childhood, is actually the truth. Indian grooms and brides, from the very beginning of their life are taught about the importance of the marriage and that they are bound to keep the journey of their marriage moving together and happily.

Like the life of a human being is based on certain things. There are few factors without which a person cannot even think about his surveillance. These factors vary from person to person and the supporting elements, which rule and define his respective lifestyle. But in case of a married, there are few common elements, which are also called as the wheels of a married life, which are responsible for the entailment of a successful and a happy married life. Though there are many other factors, which adds on to the sustainability of a wedding life, but the four most common factors, which are mostly held responsible for the proper grooming of a contented matrimony of a bride and groom. These are love, understanding, care and trust. Following is a brief description of each of the factor, as in how they help in covering a smooth married life:

• Love: Love is the most important ingredient of a married life. Especially, in case of Indian weddings, where most of the marriages are arranged, the Indian bride and groom have to invest a lot of love, on the basis of which other wheels of the married life come into existence.

• Understanding: The Indian brides and groom, are always advised to have a healthy understanding between each other. Because, if the wedding life of the couple is instilled with the factor of understanding, then the inscription of the misunderstanding and the reasons of fight becomes less and they are able to lead a normal married life.

• Trust: Faith or trust is the factors, which forms the basis of any relation and so it is required in a married life. In case of Indian weddings, the bride and groom have no other option than to trust each other, to make the journey of their marriage moving on the smooth tracks. Because, of the arranged marriages, it is very important for the Indian grooms and brides to build the factor of trust in their relationship. Also, trust is something, which takes years to build, but if once broken can lead to great discrepancies.

• Care: Love and care seems to be synonym in case of marriages, but the bride and groom should make sure that the use of both these elements is done in a proper manner. Because, excess of anything can lead to increase in expectations, which if left unfulfilled results in differences and misunderstandings.

Thus, one can say, that the proper and defined implementation of all the above elements can result in the smooth and balanced movement of all the wheels of a happy married life.

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Significance of 7 pheras in Indian Weddings

Hindu marriages are well renowned around the world for all the rituals and events forming part of the marriage ceremony. Whether it is a week long celebrations before the actual wedding date or night long parties, the joy and exuberance evident in Indian weddings is simply unparalleled.

Among various ceremonies and sacred rites; there exists ritual of 7 pheras (encirclements or roundabouts) that is considered as one of the most sacred and significant ritual of them all. 7 pheras also called Saptapadi (in Sanskrit language) basically refer to the ceremony of walking around the sacred fire seven times at the time of wedding. As in Hindu religion, it is believed that the “fire or agni” is the maintainer of life and all the Gods and Goddesses are always present around this sacred fire, so the bride and bridegroom are required to take this ritual together around the holy fire that is believed to be representing Agni Devta or God of Fire. The first three pheras are completed with the bride leading and in the rest pheras groom leads the way. Before diving into the significance of each phera lets have a look at that how the pheras are actually performed?

How are 7 pheras performed?
The ritual of 7 pheras is performed under the guidance of a priest, also called pandit in Hindi language. The priest (pandit) utters aloud the religious sayings (mantras), while the bride and the groom sit around the holy fire. After specific instructions from the priest, the bride and the groom rise up and walk around the fire seven times & with the completion of the 7th phera the ritual of 7 pheras is said to be completed.

Significance of each phera
As the name suggests, the ritual of pheras comprises of 7 pheras in all. Each phera has a distinct significance and meaning for the bride and the groom; a brief of which is mentioned below: -

Phera 1
In the first phera , the couple pray to God to extend his blessings on them in the form of healthy food and respectful life. First phera also indicates that God is the only ultimate deity, who can bless the couple with boon of honorable life and wholesome food

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language  “Om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman”
By performing the first phera lets promise to each other that our love shall become more intense with each passing day. We will help each other in every possible manner. You will cook food for me. I will bestow my love and affection upon you and shower my goodness during this journey of our married life. I will treat you kindly along with lots of love, so as to keep you happy and healthy.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Dhanam dhanyam pade vadet”
I will wholeheartedly accept your judgment. I promise you that I will fulfill all the responsibilities of your family with utmost care and dedication. I will take care of your honor and remain abided by your love forever.

2nd phera
In the second phera, the couple pleads to God for imparting them with mental stability, physical health and spiritual strength so that they can live there life smoothly after getting entangled in this pure relation of being husband-wife forever

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om oorje jara dastayaha”
By performing the ritual of second phera let us promise to each other that we will stand by each other forever. You will be initiating my strength and courage along with me. Together, we shall defend our home and family from all types of odd things and evil power.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam”
I will always fill your heart with exuberant courage and strength. I pledge that I will utter only pleasant words. I shall be supporting you in protecting our family and children from evil powers. You shall love only me as your life partner.

3rd phera
In the third phera, The couple invoke the God to provide them with uttermost wealth, wisdom and prosperity so that they can live contented and satisfied ever after. Third phera also signifies the importance of religious and sacred responsibility which shall be performed by the couple in there future life.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om rayas Santu joradastayaha”
By performing the ritual of third phera, let us promise each other that we will remain spiritually abide by each other. I will look towards other woman only as my sisters. We shall grow and flourish together under the sacred and holy sanctity of God.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Tava bhakti as vadedvachacha”
I will love you for whole of my life. I will consider all other men as my brothers. My love and respect for you will never fade. By virtue of my love and devotion I will remain as a chaste wife.

4th phera
In the fourth phera, the couple prays to the god for bestowing happiness and rapport on them. Fourth phera also signifies the importance of family, parents and elders. Fourth phera bring out a commitment between the two souls that they will remain pledged to take care of there elders, family members and parents for rest of there life.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om mayo bhavyas jaradastaya ha”
By performing the ritual of fourth phera, let us promise each other that we will provide utmost aid to our elders and parents. You will bring fortune and sanctity in my life. May god bless us with an ecstatic life and healthy children

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Lalayami cha pade vadet.”
I will decorate myself with jewelry, flowers and garlands just for you. Euphoria of my fragrance will be bestowed on only you. I will serve you and please you in every possible way.

5th phera
In the Fifth Phera , the couple pray to almighty to bless his kindness for all the living things of this universe. They pray for the happiness and well being of each others relatives and friends. Fifth Phera denotes the bride’s and bridegroom’s concern with each other’s family members and relatives. It also signifies their moral responsibilities towards the charities and universe welfare. Another importance of fifth Phera is that they pray for a noble breed.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “”Om prajabhyaha Santu jaradastayaha”
Dear, we have walked four steps together. By taking this fifth steps with me, you have enriched my life. May you be blessed with every happiness. May our loved ones live long and happy life. Please come and share my duties for all charity acts. Come with me so we can enrich our family and get blessed with noble, righteous and brave children.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Arte arba sapade vadet”
I will be with you in all the circumstances. I will share your happiness and joy and I will also share your grieves. Your love will give me strength to trust and respect you. My utmost concern would be your wish fulfillment. I pledge to do all possible tasks to carry out your wishes.

6th phera
By performing Sixth phera couple implore for a long and happy life. They pray to almighty to extend his blessings for a long lived togetherness. They wish to enjoy endless plentiful seasons with each other. Sixth phera is completely related to the long, joyous life and togetherness.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
My Love, you have added immense happiness to my life, by taking six steps with me. My heart is filled with joy. I wish to have you always by my side. May you be with me forever and glut my life with pleasure and peace

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Yajne home shashthe vacho vadet”
I assure you that I will always walk beside you. I promise you that I will happily participate with you in all your noble acts. I will stand with you to perform the jobs to enrich our mercenary prosperity and enjoyment. I will also extend my efforts for all your devotional duties

7th phera
Seventh Phera is the last phera which adds completion to the ritual of seven pheras. In seventh Phera , Bride & Bridegroom plead for a joy full life. The couple begs the god for a long lasting bond enriched with good understanding, loyalty and companionship. They pledge to bear the relationship with love and honesty. The couple invokes and also prays for universal peace as well as social welfare.

Bridegroom’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Om sakhi jaradastayahga.”
My beloved, we have performed seven pheras together and now we have a single identity. Henceforth we would be incomplete without each other. Our existence is entirely devoted to each other. I am completely yours and you are completely mine. Our bond has become perpetual. May we have an everlasting marriage.

Bride’s pledge/promise
As uttered in Sanskrit language “Attramshe sakshino vadet pade.”
With the pious of seven steps, I have been privileged to be your wife. I promise you to be always truthful. We will love each other forever. All the promises we have taken during this holy ritual, we will do all the possible to carry out the same with pure intentions. We pledge to be transparent with each other

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Hiring a wedding planner for the big day

Hiring a wedding planner for the marriage makes the task of arrangements for the wedding day, a lot easier and enjoyable for the family and relatives of the bride and the groom

Wedding is the most precious day of one’s life. It is the day, when one wants to acquire the best look for himself, the best venue, the best menu and the best designer to make his wedding turn out to be the fantastical day of his life. Though, showing off to people with such lavishing arrangements is surely one of the motives of both the families of the bride and the groom. But, self contentment and happiness is the biggest factor, which forces and persuades the inner self of a person to have the world class arrangements for his royal wedding day.

There are so many things, which are required to be done and completed according to the highest standards of the society. In fact, some tasks are such, which we even forget, and usually get to remember after the wedding ceremony is performed. The best thing, which one should do at the time of his marriage, is to hire a wedding planner. A wedding planner is a person, who from the very starting of the marriage ceremony, takes the charge of all the activities and rituals to be performed in the functions of the marriage.

The marriage ceremony constitutes of various functions and ceremonies, which are ought to be performed in the old traditional mannerisms, and even these days, a modern touch is also given to the rituals to make its more happening and interesting. The best part of hiring a wedding planner is that they give a very original, emotional and cheerful feel to the whole set-up of the wedding. The wedding venue is decorated in the ways corresponding to the cultures and tradition of the two families involved in the wedding alliance. The ambience and the aura of the wedding venue plays a very important role in switching the moods of the guest to the real feeling of wedding and make them actually enjoy the wedding ceremonies, in their own ways.

Hiring a wedding organizer for the wedding is a big relief to the family, because it allows them to enjoy the functions and ceremonies of the wedding, leaving no space for tensions and burdens due to the wedding preparations. Usually we see, that the families of the bride and the groom, do not get the time to enjoy the functions to the fullest, because of the responsibilities and tiresome arrangements need to be made for the wedding ceremonies. Also, because, Indian weddings are not an affair of single function, they generally takes around 10- 15 days, so hiring a wedding planner not only eases the tension for the wedding preparations, but also allows the family of the bride and groom to shop freely for the wedding clothes and jewellery.

In fact, there are many wedding planners and beauticians also working in the marriage industry, which work on the looks and attire of the bride and groom to be worn on the wedding day. Though, it is bit costly to hire a personal wedding designer, but this makes the shopping job the easiest making it possible for the bride and the groom to look at their best. They don’t need to roam here and there for the selection of their wedding clothes and jewellery, all the work is done by the designer. It is his duty to make the bride and groom look like prince and princess on the day of their wedding. This not only makes them look best, but also unique from the usual designs present in the market. Indian families, in spite of hiring a wedding organiser believe in doing most of the things by themselves, due to the emotional attachments with their son or daughter, but still it provides a great help and relief to them for the completion of the wedding ceremonies successfully and in the grandest way possible.

Beach Themed Wedding

If you are holding a beach themed wedding, keeping the theme universal makes the planning and preparations much easier. When you begin planning the bridesmaid luncheon, why not consider combining the male and female attendants “thank you” party into one competitive and fun event. Planning the wedding attendant luncheon for your entire bridal party can be a great deal of fun and take very little effort as long as you identify your main goal of the event and create an entire afternoon around that activity. Since you are hosting a luncheon, a beach barbecue would be a thematic and fun.

An afternoon activity that would provide lighthearted fun and competitiveness between the two sides of the bridal party could include a “sand castle building” competition at your local beach. This unique and exciting activity would provide a great opportunity for everyone to meet and get to know one another and express their creative side along the way. Additional activities that could be included in the day’s itinerary could include a game of beach volleyball and a bonfire. However, if you intend to build a fire on a public beach it is often a good idea to check with your city council to discover if any special permits are necessary prior to hosting your event.

Taking time to locate beach wedding attendant gifts for each member of your wedding party is actually easier than you might think; many online and retail wedding planning outlets have unique and creative wedding party favors to give to your friends and family on this special day.

How to Plan a Wedding Fast

You can plan a wedding in a few weeks if you really have to; the key is to prioritize and focus on the things you want the most for your special day. You may have to eliminate a few of the traditional details, and you will have to remain open-minded and flexible, but with a little finesse you can plan a wedding--fast.

Find a wedding venue. In a short amount of time you may not be able to get a traditional venue such as a banquet hall or wedding chapel, especially during the height of wedding season. Your church congregation building may be able to provide the location; if there is the space, consider having your reception there as well. Or try to find another location that can host the whole day for you, such as a restaurant with a large outdoor seating area or a local lodge or park. Having the wedding ceremony and reception in one place eliminates one more step so there is less to coordinate.  

Choose your dress. A traditional wedding dress requires multiple fittings, for which you may not have time. Save time and money by shopping off the rack at a department store or boutique. You can find an evening gown in white, ivory or any shade of your choosing this way, and the standard sizing should make it easy to fit. If you need alterations, have them done at a local seamstress shop all at one time instead of a bridal boutique that may require multiple visits.

Send invitations. On a short time span, you won't have time for personalized invitations that take several weeks to order. Instead, print your own; you can type them up on your computer and even pay to have them printed at a local print shop or retail store with a photo department.

Add personalized touches but eliminate the extras like embossing and multiple envelopes that take so long to put together. You can set up a blog or website and advertise your wedding that way, inviting guests to log in with a special password. Or use evite.com to set up your invitations for free and get electronic responses.  

Bake a cake or have one made for you. You may know a friend who always brings homemade goodies to the get-togethers you attend; ask her to bake a simple cake for your wedding instead of enlisting a professional bakery. Often you must order traditional wedding cakes several months in advance; a friend might be able to pull through for you in a pinch in less time than that. If you use a friend or a bakery, think outside the box for your cake. Instead of a large multi-tiered creation, try a few smaller cakes arranged together or even cupcakes. This type of baking will be easier and faster.

Enlist the help of family and friends. Play to the talents of the people you know and ask them to contribute to your wedding; the service they provide can be their gift to you. Aside from the cake baker, ask a friend who owns a nice digital camera to take your photos. Some crafty friends can arrange silk flowers into vases to decorate your tables, and a friend with a flair for hair styling can prepare you and the bridesmaids for the big day. Getting everyone involved saves time because your friends don't have multiple weddings to work for like a professional might. It also adds a personal touch to your wedding that you will remember in the years to come.  

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Role of Event Planner in planning events

An event planner is a passionate individual who helps you organize the perfect event you have been thinking of. Event planners deal with budgeting, fixing dates and alternate dates, choosing and booking event sites or locations, taking permits, and coordinating transportation and parking, arranging decor, tables, chairs, tents, event support and security, catering, police, fire, portable toilets, parking, emergency plans, health care professionals, and cleanup. Event Planning is moderately an innovative occupational field.

Event planners must be trained and prepared to work under pressure and work competently and efficiently. Their career includes a great deal of communication and organizational aspects.

The work of an event planner is either demanding or revitalizing. Most of the time their work is measured as stressful as they have deadlines to meet and will have to get in touch with a lot of people at a single point of time and at times their working convention planner, a special event manager, and a meeting manager. Working hours can be extensively long.


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